How to be an ally to LGBTQ+ students

LGBTQ+ community

Being an ally to those in the LGBTQ+ community is a great way to make your peers feel supported and safe during their time at university. People in marginalised groups often experience forms of discrimination. Offering help, empathy and a listening ear is an important way of being inclusive and letting others know they are not alone.

Think about your language

A great first step in becoming an LGBTQ+ ally is looking at the language you use. There are plenty of small changes you could make that could mean a lot to others.

When introducing yourself, mention your preferred pronouns and invite others to do the same. If you're ever unsure of what language to use, don’t be afraid to ask. It’s better than making assumptions! Don’t ask individuals intrusive or personal questions. It’s ok to be curious, but some individuals will want to share on their own terms.

What you can do

You can show you are an ally to the LGBTQ+ community by the things you do. For example, step back and actively listen to the individual and their experiences. It is important to centre their voice and hear about how best you can support them. By allowing someone to be heard, you are creating a safe space for them. 

You can also make it clear to others that you will not tolerate bulling, discrimination or slurs. If this does happen, stand up for others and report discriminatory behaviour to the university using our report and support tool.

Let's learn about it

The internet gives you the means to find out more about other’s experiences in an instant. A simple google is a great way to educate yourself about the LGBTQ+ community, their experiences, their challenges and what life is like for them. You can also follow LGBTQ+ advocates on social media or seek out resources or information online. For example, Stonewall have some great resources about staying safe online as a LGBTQ+ person or a list of LGBTQ+ terms if you need a refresher.

You can also get clued up on microaggressions and learn how to call them out.

Another important tip is recognising intersectionality. Individuals may have various identities that overlap, meaning that they can experience discrimination in a variety of ways, for example race, religion, disability. An awareness of this is useful step in being an LGBTQ+ ally.